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Bully

20 Feb

 James decided that from this day forward he is to be called Dragon Cheetah Lion Sheep.  Though he will allow us to call him Dragon James just so everyone else has time to get used to the idea.  He insisted that all his Valentine’s be signed Dragon James. When we dropped his cards off at school for their annual party, his teacher looked at his signature, and shook her head; this is just one more wacky Davis antic in her mind.

I asked him why he couldn’t be James anymore he said James wasn’t fierce enough.  I asked him why his name had to be fierce,  and he said that it would help him when other kids bullied him at school. How utterly sad is that? We knew that he’s been struggling with another kid at school recently.  He has been punched in the eye for no reason other than the other kid got bored waiting line to go outside, and felt like it.  He’s also been shoved down hard on cement.  His school has been doing a great job dealing with the issue.  But we want James to have some coping skills too.  Teachers aren’t always going to be able to protect him.

We’ve been talking about looking bullies in the eye, being firm and telling them to stop.  If that fails to stay close to the teacher. Don’t play alone, stay surrounded by friends. But he seem reluctant to stand up for himself in a confrontation.  The addition of sheep at the end of his new awe-inspiring name is an indication of his gentle nature. 

We are thinking that maybe it is time for Aikido or Kung Fu.  But gosh darn it, he’s my boy, he’s only five, I was hoping he’d have just a little more time before he had to face this….This makes me so sad.

If anyone out there has experience dealing with bullies, I’d love to hear about it.

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Posted by on February 20, 2011 in Doin'

 

2 responses to “Bully

  1. unmitigated me (m.a.w.)

    February 20, 2011 at 3:33 pm

    As long as there are asshole parents, they will have asshole kids. I would definitely enroll him in Aikido, or something like what my son (still!) studies at 19: Wing Chun Do. Both are defensive, not offensive.

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  2. Casey

    February 22, 2011 at 5:47 pm

    God, this makes me sad. Poor Dragon James and poor you guys. This is the exact reason I hate other kids and other parents. And why I KNOW I’m going to be getting in a lot of fights when my kids enter public school. Good luck with the bullying situation, sorry you guys are going through this.

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